I’m a fixer – I don’t want anyone hurting, sad, left out, wandering. And patience isn’t part of fixing – now please.
Many years – and life’s triumphs and defeats – have softened the edges of my ‘just do it this way’ attitude — mostly. Then I read: “Let your gentleness be evident to all, the Lord is near.” (Philippians 4:5 NIV) Gentle fixes more than all my ‘good ideas’.
Tender love endears. Quiet words hearken ears. This fruit of the Spirit, gentleness, is the way of fixing.
“Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matthew 11:29 NIV) Jesus ‘fixed’ many things while He walked the earth: blind eyes, deaf ears, dead bodies, illness, hard hearts. Yet each time in great tenderness – and often asking ‘do you want this fixing, this mending?’ (my paraphrase). Reminds me that what I see as broken may not want fixing, and it’s not to me to be the fixer.
If you’re a mother, you know this dilemma intimately. Not wanting our babes, young or grown, to walk the mistakes we did. And so we offer, not so gently, our advice or answers. Often without asking. Those closest to us, husbands – friends – siblings, should see things the way we do, right?
“Gentleness is strength under control.” Elizabeth George Jesus was all powerful, able to fix anything – everything. Yet He never forced His will on anyone. The ability to fix something isn’t our license to make it so. When we trust God to work out all things, that is our gentleness, His strength in us – under control. Holy Spirit leading, us cooperating.
I want to turn my fixing into falling – at the feet of the One who is control. Letting go of my fear that things want turn out right, that something will go dreadfully wrong – trusting the One who is faithful. “So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” (2Corinthians 4:18 NV)
Now that’s the kind of fixing that will make a difference – and give rest to our souls.
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